Just recently I have been thinking about the last month and a problem I have been dealing with. Anyway I have been struggling with this issue and it has been on my mind. I have been thinking positive and being proactive about it but the problem is still there. Than I was chatting to one of my friends who also was struggling with their own problems. First of all most of us have problems its normal. Some dilemmas are small, others difficult and even complex. A different matter is how much time do you spend thinking about your complications? In my case I was rationalising my problem. I was thinking well I know this and this is happening and than I asked myself “why is this happening?” That can go on for a long time.
Turning the obstacle over and over in your head and not getting anywhere. Generally it is a good idea to understand the nature of a problem to find a solution. But for me I am finding this is not the case. Some people spend more time thinking about their problems than necessary and can be really invested without them being consciously aware. They can also be emotionally charging their issue. Don’t energise a problem by constantly talking about it, complaining or telling everyone as this will continue to make you stuck.
My advice and what I have been doing is to focus on a solution. Heard the saying energy goes where attention flows. Depending on the issue, sit down and take some time to imagine how different your life would be without your problem. Imagine how you would feel if it was completely gone. Keep repeating this step because even just making that shift in the energy can really make a difference. Than be a problem solver. Get pen or paper and yes actually set aside ten minutes or more to see if you can find a solution. Make sure to do some brainstorming. And than think about your options. You will usually have different options even if they are not ideal. Think outside the box and ask for advice if you need to. A problem shared is a problem halved. How do you deal with your problems? What advice would you give someone in a challenging situation?